Friday, September 3, 2010

What Are Your Goals and Dreams?

This year started out really rough, but things are slowly getting better. I am so thankful for that. I can't believe it's September already. I wanted to jot down some goals for myself..These are in no certain order.

1. Keep our savings account growing.
2. Get a car.
3. Start my business. (In case anyone was wondering I am working on creating a safe, healthy cosmetic line.)
4. Have our friends and family wedding on that special date of 11/11/11.
5. Eat healthier.
6. Visit family more.
7. Remain out of debt.
8. Don't sweat the small things.
9. Network more.
10. Blog more.
11. Get reading group up and going.
12. Get out and visit more.
13. Exercise more.
14. Practice patience.
15. Think before you react.
16. Have more date nights.
17. When having a bad day remember something funny.
18. Laugh out loud.
19. Take more pictures.
20. Admire natures beauty.
21. Remember everyday how blessed I am.

Count Your Blessings

What do you do when people go out of their way to upset you, make you mad, bring you down, while trying to make themselves feel better about who they are as a person? It can only get to you if you let it!!! That is the key thing to remember right there! I definitely experienced this. The first thing one might want to do is react and become angry in return. Then you must ask.. It is worth it? Why would you want to reduce yourself to someone else's immaturity?  Is playing a childish game truly worth it? I think not.

Life is too short to to let yourself get involved with other people's drama. I have to say for myself when this happens, I have to get up and walk away. That is the best thing anyone can do. There are far more important things to focus on and be thankful for. Count your blessings!!!!

Happily Ever After Begins With You

When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out "ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on." And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective.

..........This is your awakening.

You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change, or for happiness safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

So you begin making your way through the "reality of today" rather than holding out for the "promise of tomorrow." You realize that much of who you are and the way you navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning you've received over the course of a lifetime. And you begin to sift through all the nonsense you were taught about :
- how you should look and how much you should weigh,
- what you should wear and where you should shop,
- where you should live or what type of car you should drive,
- who you should sleep with and how you should behave,
- who you should marry and why you should stay,
- the importance of bearing children or what you owe your family,
Slowly you begin to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin re-assessing and re-defining who you are and what you really believe in. And you begin to discard the doctrines you have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.
You accept the fact that you are not perfect ,and that not everyone will love appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, you come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a "perfect 10".... Or a perfect human being for that matter... and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head or agonizing over how you compare. And, you take a long look at yourself in the mirror and you make a promise to give yourself the same unconditional love and support you give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.- Sonny Carroll

You Learn

  Stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" hungry for your next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then you discover that it is truly in "giving" that we receive, and that the joy and abundance you seek grows out of the giving. And you recognize the importance of "creating" and "contributing" rather than "obtaining" and "accumulating."
And you give thanks for the simple things you've been blessed with, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about - a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, the freedom of choice and the opportunity to pursue your own dreams.
And you begin to love and to care for yourself. You stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors, including participating in dysfunctional relationships. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because you've learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, you give yourself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so you make it a point to create time for play.
Then you learn about love and relationships - how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. And you allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects you to glorify you with his touch. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally, and that not everyone will always come through... and interestingly enough, it's not always about you. So, you stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to you or weren't done for you. And you learn to keep your Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns - anger, jealousy and resentment.
You learn how to say "I was wrong" and to forgive people for their own human frailties. You learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, you eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify you. You stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting your needs aside. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right to want or expect certain things. And you learn the importance of communicating your needs with confidence and grace. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then you learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to Say NO. You learn that you don't know all the answers, it's not your job to save the world and that sometimes you just need to Let Go.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

The Animal Odd Couple

This is one of the sweetest videos. For animal lovers~~

Let Your Confidence Shine

We all have insecurities, what we think we see about another person is usually what they want us to notice.

At some point in our life there may come a time when we feel insecure about ourselves. We might judge our ability to do something or feel self-conscious about the way we look. It does not matter how this feeling manifests in our life, but it is important to be aware of our thoughts and how they impact our view of ourselves. Once we remember that insecurities are a normal part of life for everyone—even those who appear to be extremely self-assured—we may find it easier to step back from the uncertainty that lies within and take a more realistic look at ourselves.

The desire to improve or better ourselves is a natural response that arises when we begin to compare our lives to those of other people. It might seem, for example, that we do not have nearly as much going for us as our neighbor, best friend, or coworker. In truth, what we think we see about another person is usually what they want us to notice. They may be putting on a mask, trying to make things in their lives seem better than they are. If we were to look at their lives a little more closely, we would also realize that they are human, full of glorious imperfections that make them who they are. Recognizing this may take some time at first. Should we, however, feel our uncertainties begin to surface, taking deep breaths while at the same time acknowledging each one of our gifts will help us become more centered. Doing this allows us to see the wonders that lie within and lets our inner beauty shine forth into the world all the more brightly.

When we hold up such a detailed mirror to our lives and weigh ourselves against others, we are not able to see the things that make us truly unique. Giving ourselves permission to appreciate all the universe has given us, however, will make us feel more secure about ourselves and more able to use our gifts to their fullest. Daily OM

Leaving The Past Behind

This can be a tough one but I do believe it is necessary. As I posted last night there are people who are no longer in my life. Do I wish they were? Maybe one or two. I maybe always curious to know how they are doing or what they are up to and that is ok. However, it is important to truly value who is in my life today. I am thankful for all my past experiences with certain people,  in the sense that they shaped me into who I am today. Though I have been through many painful experiences (Who hasn't?) they all have made me stronger. Recently, I was going through a pitty potty stage and thinking to myself.. I sometimes feel invisible. Well guess what? If that is the case then I need to get myself our there more. It's up to no one to make me feel less invisible or important in their lives. It is me who has to validate myself, no one else. I do love learning these things as it brings me closer to the person that I strive to be!